Married to Jesus – Ephesians 5:22-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. . . . “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. – Ephesians 5:25-27, 31-32 NIV

The Bride of Christ

In the midst of Paul’s instructions to husbands and wives in Ephesians 5:22-33 is an interesting comparison to Christ and his church; the bride of Christ.  Much of what Paul has to say to both parties in the marriage relationship is compared to the relationship between Jesus, as the husband, and the church, as his bride.  My previous blog post discussed the husband/wife relationship but I believe that the Christ/church relationship is also worth exploring.

A certain amount of what Paul has had to say in Ephesians is directed at individual believers. But he has also had a lot to say concerning the church as a body; much of it concerned with helping the church to mature.  And that is true in this passage as well.  It is the church, as a body, rather than individual members, being addressed in this passage.  But at the same time it is important to realize that I am a member of that body. And the body will only reach its potential as I, and others like me, commit to it and fulfill the role we were called to.

A Submitted and Unified Church

The role of the church in this relationship is simply to submit to Christ; in everything.  Paul has already shared with us that the church is central to God’s plan and that he has equipped the church for success.  All we have to do is submit to him.  But I have a struggle with that. Submission requires me (us) to give up control. We should not be doing what we think is best, or makes us most comfortable. Instead, we should be doing what Christ tells us to do.

For a successful marriage with Christ, the church needs to be united as one body. If we are not unified together, what kind of body would we be? Imagine a human body where each part had a mind of its own, each seeking its own satisfaction. It would never be able to function as intended. And the church is the same. We have only one head, Christ, and should be united in following him. We need to submit to his headship, both individually as members, and together as a body. Without unity, it will not be possible for us, as a church, to submit to our husband in everything.

But how does a church reach this unity and maturity?  I do not pretend to know all of the answers to that. But it seems to me that it will only happen as each of us learn to submit to each other and to Christ; as we choose to take the role our Lord has given to us; and as we do our part in building up the body.

A Radiant and Glorious Bride

Christ is described as loving the church and giving himself up for her.  In doing so he made her holy and clean. And now he can present her to himself as a radiant, holy and blameless bride.  Many of the Old Testament prophets painted a picture of Israel being married to God. Ezekiel 16:1-14 in particular describes the birth and development of Israel as a girl. A girl who was unwanted, but who God took for himself; his bride. This is the same picture, in fewer words, that Paul is painting here.  Jesus paid the ultimate price to claim his church. He cleaned her up, put her into beautiful clothes and claimed her as the bride of Christ.

A Profound Mystery

To me, the most interesting part of this passage is in verses 31 & 32.  It starts off with a quote from Genesis that many people include in their wedding ceremony: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”  This illustrates leaving the old life and family relationships behind, and becoming something new; two people becoming one flesh.  That becoming one flesh is the most intimate relationship we have.

And this is followed by: “This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.”  Could it really be that Paul views the relationship between a husband and wife as an illustration of the relationship between Christ and his church?  It would appear so.  Fortunately Paul says that it is a profound mystery, so it is probably OK if I do not fully understand all of the implications of this verse.  But at the very least it refers to an intimacy between Christ and his church, of which I am a part, which goes well beyond the master/servant relationship we more commonly think of.

The Intimacy of the Body

A similar passage comes from John 17:20-22 and following: “My prayer is not for them alone.  I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you.  May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me.”  Jesus prayer in this passage is that his future followers, us, would experience the same unity together that Jesus does with the Father.   And not only would we share that oneness with each other, but that we would also share it with God.

I honestly don’t know just what to make of these two passages.  But at the very least it seems clear that God desires an intimacy with his people, the bride of Christ, that goes beyond anything that we can experience apart from him.  The closest we can get is the intimate relationship between a husband and his wife.  But I suspect that is really just a shadow of the reality he is inviting us to be a part of.

So just how do I experience this intimacy with God and my fellow believers?  I believe the answer lies in the word ‘submit’.  The one thing I really don’t want to do, is the one thing I need to do to experience the joy of knowing my creator in a very personal way.

All Posts In This Series

  • A Brief Introduction to Ephesians: Who and Why - This brief introduction to Ephesians will share some of the ideas of authorship, audience and purpose that many scholars see, as well as my views.
  • Spiritual Blessings – Ephesians 1:3-14 - God has given his spiritual blessings to us in the heavenly realm. And we have these blessing because we are in Christ. Praise God for all he has done.
  • Prayer – Ephesians 1:15-23 - In Ephesians 1:15-23, Paul's prayer for the recipients of this letter is for a spirit of wisdom and revelation so that they could know God better.
  • From Death Into Life: An Act of Grace – Ephesians 2:1-7 - In my natural state I was spiritually dead, separated from the life of God. But by his grace, I have been made alive, with a life that will never end.
  • Amazing Grace – Ephesians 2:8-10 - Grace. More specifically God's grace. As believers we talk about it a lot, frequently defining it as God's unmerited favor towards us. And indeed it is. It is by God's grace that we are saved, and not by anything we can do (Ephesians 2:8). God's grace has dealt with our sin and we now have a future with him. It is unfortunate however that we often leave it there.
  • Tearing Down Walls – Ephesians 2:11-22 - In Christ it makes no difference whether we are Jew or Gentile. We are all one body in him because of grace. It is by faith in what Jesus did that we come into relationship with God now; not by adherence to the commands and regulations of the law. Because observance of the law as a means to righteousness has been replaced by God's grace, we are all equally able to stand before God, not because of what I have done, but because of what he did.
  • The Mystery of Christ – Ephesians 3:1-13 - And the mystery is not only that the barrier that separated Jews from Gentiles has been eliminated. But also that the need for a priestly intermediary has been removed. All believers now also serve as priests and each have direct access to the throne of God.
  • Rooted and Established In Love – Ephesians 3:14-21 - Paul prays that the Ephesians would be rooted and established in love, a suitable dwelling place for the Holy Spirit.
  • Walking Worthy – Ephesians 4:1-6 - What does walking worthy of our calling mean? In the context of Ephesians 4:1-6, it refers to our role in the body of Christ. Be the best member you can be.
  • Growing a Mature Church – Ephesians 4:11-16 - Christ provides his church with the necessary equippers to that we can be a mature church, fully equipped to do the work he has called us to.
  • Out With the Old, In With the New – Ephesians 4:17-32 - How do I live as an effective member of the body of Christ? It involves personal transformation, putting off the old self, and taking on the new self.
  • Imitators of God – Ephesians 5:1-20 - Don't be like the world around you. Instead, be imitators of God by living a life of love, living as a child of the light, and living with wisdom.
  • Married to Jesus – Ephesians 5:22-33 - One of the images for the church in the New Testament is the Bride of Christ. This image pictures the intimate relationship between Christ and his church.
  • All In the Family – Ephesians 5:21-6:9 - Paul's instructions to first century families contains useful information for families today. It also contains advice for workplace relationships.
  • Spiritual Warfare – Ephesians 6:10-20 - A spiritual battle is raging all around us. So take up the armor God provides so you can stand your ground and be engaged in that spiritual warfare.

Post History

  • June 13, 2012: Original post
  • October 5, 2018: Updated for content and SEO

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